It's been a while since I popped my head out due to my dad's illness being such a shock he is going slowly but surely going...But no one can say when our last moment will be so I pray but he is suffering and bouncing from the nursing home to the hospital at least he is being cared for properly...his wife who has enjoyed the good days decided she would let him sit in the apartment and perish so we had the battle of the divas to resolve the issue of his proper care, she lost...All I wanted was for him to be looked after properly not left sitting alone in an apartment for eight hours waiting for her to show up and do little or nothing...He asked me to get groceries like he was not being fed, and he was bone thin from a 190 frame and going in and out of lucidity and that terrified me and I was so I did she resented that and I think she threw the food away $200.00 worth of groceries that was the last straw...His friends called adult protective services and they removed him... They tried to work with her and she would not cooperate or answer the phone which was exactly what she did to me and I am too ill to jump out of bed running over there uninvited and unannounced that is not my preference or style... I went over once and tried to talk to her and work with her but she was a stubborn piece of work and told me she would do as she pleased which was allowing him to fall and lay unattended,he was not eating properly, and God knows what else, she was picking up his phone and hanging up on me, or taking his phone so I could not reach him. I was worried sick and she resents me and does not know me or my family nor did she ever try to... No one deserves to be mistreated no matter how unkind they were to others an ill person is an ill person and we cold not take care of him because he was too far gone. After many words were shouted back and forth and I straightened her out that I was not going to stand by and watch him be mistreated and she was directly responsible for APS coming in because she would not listen or work with the social workers and nurses to have carers in to look after him and ducked all help. I feel bad and she is not well herself, but neither am I and she has never dialed this phone even now to see if I need anything or just to day she cared. I have been ill since 1972 and critically ill since I met her over ten years ago and I also had to straighten her out and clarify dad was never there for us emotionally, financially or otherwise and he was playing church deacon, posing as a good dad and pretending to be all brand new as he left us destitute and trid to leave us homeless and deprived us of any and everything he could to sustain his freedom and selfish and lavish lifestyle so any joy she got as family to him was good because he failed to love, care for or do anything for his first family's welfare, and never looked back, including never filing for VA benefits for me his only disabled child, just filing out a form was too much to expect so that bit of extra money could have helped me the days I was ill and almost starving on my own.It's sad but he is reaping what he sowed now and I wish him and his wife only God's protection and mercy. I share this so all those doing good will see God looks after us in spite of those who abandon us and their day of reckoning comes and then they are called to account for their actions seen and unseen, no one gets away with abandoning their family and partying away the nights and days then when illness comes they expect all to be forgotten and for those left behind to come sit at their feet and take care of them. I will never forget but I forgave him and went to see he is alright, cared for properly and that is all I can do and I would do that for anyone suffering and alone.
Happy New Year and May God bless and anoint all of us with kindness, peace, and may we ask for and receive forgiveness for all we have done to others, make amends before it is too late, and may his blood cover us all with grace, gratitude, mercy and strength of spirit...Love sweetmeat58
